你的幽默是哪一型?
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幽默引人笑,引人笑者,卻不一定都是幽默;善幽默的人,必然不是舞文弄墨,也絕非滑稽搞笑,而是將幽默視為一種大智慧的格局,讓所處的環境增添輕鬆的氛圍、散發光彩,為平淡的日常點綴一抹笑容。
1. 小太陽 self-enhancing humor
他們欣賞生活的不完美,即使面對困難與挫敗,依舊能往好處想,情緒控管良好,與壓力共處的時候,還是能幽默以對,個性樂觀。
這種人你可能是...
●If I am feeling depressed, I can usually cheer myself up with humor.
假如我很沮喪,我通常會以幽默來提振自己。
●Even when I'm by myself, I'm often amused by the absurdities of life.
就算只有我自己獨處時,我也常能以生活中的荒謬事物自娛。
●If I am feeling upset or unhappy I usually try to think of something funny about the situation to make myself feel better.
假如我不高興或不快樂,我通常會試著想想這個情境的好笑之處讓自己心情變好。
●It is my experience that thinking about some amusing aspect of a situation is often a very effective way of coping with problems.
我的經驗發現:想想情境中的好笑的一面是讓我有效處理問題的方法。
●I don't need to be with other people to feel amused-I can usually find things to laugh about even when I'm by myself.
我不必和別人在一起才會感到愉快--我自己獨處時也通常能發現好笑的事物。
2. 遇弱則強 aggressive humor
這類型的人,通常是用貶抑、嘲笑他人的方式來達到笑果,也是一種提昇他們自尊的方式,他們講的笑話常夾帶嘲諷意味,而不太在乎別人可能會受傷,特別像是種族歧視、刻板印象的話題。
這種人你可能是 ...
●If someone makes a mistake, I will often tease them about it.
假如有人犯錯,我通常會嘲笑他們。
●Sometimes I think of something that is so funny that I can't stop myself from saying it, even if it is not appropriate for the situation.
有時候我覺得有些事實在好笑到我無法不說出來,就算是場合不對我也不管。
●People are never offended or hurt by my sense of humor.
別人才不會受到我幽默感的冒犯或傷害。
●If I don't like someone, I often use humor or teasing to put them down.
假如我不喜歡某個人,我通常會用幽默的方式來嘲笑他們。
3. 即興發揮 affiliative humor
使用令人會心一笑的善意幽默來達到提升自我和別人的關係,而且又是對自己相當善意和接納的幽默;反應快的機智對白、巧辯,達到娛樂大家,降低人際之間緊張氣氛。
這種人你可能是 ...
●I usually don't laugh or joke around much with other people.
我通常不太笑,也不太刻意和別人開玩笑。
●I usually don't like to tell jokes or amuse people.
我通常不喜歡講笑話來娛樂別人。
●I enjoy making people laugh.
我會很高興能讓別人發笑。
●I rarely make other people laugh by telling funny stories about myself.
我很少靠著說自己的好笑故事來讓別人發笑。
4. 把悲傷留給自己 self-defeating humor
習慣自嘲來達到幽默的效果,即使被嘲笑也會跟著一起笑,好讓別的群體可以接受自己,他們也運用這種幽默來掩飾內心真實的感受,自尊感相對較低,沒安全感,也容易不滿意自己的人際圈。